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Only Quality People (OQP)

February 19th, 2010

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Years ago a billionaire friend of mine said to me “Tom, 5 years from now your income will be the average of your five best friends.” I also remember my parents saying to me as a young child ” You are who you hang around with.” My friend and my parents are all very smart people who have achieved great success in their lives, and over time I have found profound truth to this wise bit of advice. Since applying this concept to my life I now make more money, have better physical and emotional health, and have developed deeper and more satisfying relationships with those people in my circle of influence.

When listening to world famous motivational speaker Les Brown speak live at a conference, I heard him use the acronym OQP or Only Quality People. He could not stress enough, how important it was to surround yourself with only quality people. He said “If your the smartest person in your group, you need to find a new group”. He said “If your the strongest one in your group, you need to find a new group”. I think we can, without permission, take that a step further and say “If your the most happiest and most successful person in your group, you need to find a new group”. Why is this so important? Let me explain.

In every relationship in your life there exists a struggle of influence. Meaning, when you engage in any form of regular communication with another person wither it be physical, verbal, non-verbal, spiritual or otherwise, you are affecting, and are being affected by, that person in either a positive or negative manner.

Think of a relationship as an ice cube in a cup of hot water. Lets say the water in the cup is 130 degrees Fahrenheit and the ice cube is around 28 degrees Fahrenheit. As soon as the ice cube is placed in the cup of hot water the struggle of influence become evident. Simultaneously the ice cube begins to warm and melt, while the water in the cup begins to cool. This will happen until the ice cube has fully melted. At this point the ice cube and the water in the cup have reached a dynamic equilibrium of sorts and have achieve a temperature of around 79 degrees Fahrenheit depending on room temperature.

Now in this example, the influence each substance had on each other is of no consequence and can not really be looked at as neither good nor bad. However, in a real life setting, with each component being a real person in a relationship, the influence that each person has on the other can significantly effect the life of each person involved. What I want you to understand is that every relationship you have with someone in your life has the potential to damage your life progress and overall happiness if you let it. On the other hand, every relationship you have has just as great a potential to lift you to new levels of personal growth, achievement and overall happiness. This is great news! This means that you are in 100% control of who you choose to let into your circle of influence and can therefor start taking immediate action in surrounding yourself with OQP. Lets dig a little deeper.

I think its safe to say that all of us are currently engaged in several relationships in our current lives. Have you ever taken a step back and asked yourself, “What is this relationship doing for me?” or “What is this relationship doing TO me?” Heavy analysis of all of your current relationships, I’m hoping, will be an eye opening experience for you. You must ask yourself ” Does this person support me, encourage me, inspire me, love me, look out for me, respect me, advocate for me, listen to me, challenge me, motivate me, have compassion for me, teach me, believe in me, and complete me?” Or does this person “Defeat me, anger me, disrespect me, lie to me or about me, insult me, deflate me, drain me, frustrate me, discourage me, doubt me, limit me or crush my dreams?” I understand that sometimes your relationships are not always this black and white, however through careful evaluation you should be able to figure out if the relationship is having a more negative or more positive effect on you as a person.

You need to learn how to manage your current relationships, as well as the relationships you will form in the future. Only Quality People needs to become a way of life for you. You need to develop an automatic regulatory component in your very being, that allows you to surround yourself with the kindest, smartest, happiest, and most successful people you can find. This is absolutely detrimental to your success and is concept all of the most successful people in the world understand and employ.

You can either spend your life at the mercy of the negative influence of your relationships, or you can take control, and increase your chances for success by letting Only Quality People into your life. The choice is up to you.

I love you all and wish you the best of success.

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Tags: billionaires, health, Income, Les Brown, money, Relationships, success, wealth

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How to Sponsor Hundreds of People Into Your MLM (Part 2)

January 20th, 2010

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Welcome back! Hopefully you’ve started to implement at least some of what you have learned in part one of this blog post. Before we ad another element to this process, let us review a few things.

At this point you should have a clearly defined dream, as well as have a burning desire for its achievement. You now know that each step of the work flow must be done in the proper order if you want to achieve great results. You now know that you should be spending 80% of your time showing your business plan and 20% of your time selling products.

I would now like to address something that can often mean the difference between success and failure in the world of Network or Multi-Level Marketing. That is use of a properly written Prospect List. You must have a prospect list that is constantly being updated and revised. This prospect list should be kept in the back of your dream book, and should be looked at three times a day minimum.

Now lets go over how to correctly create a prospect list. First you need a sheet of white lined paper and a pen with blue ink. Once you have your materials, I want you to write down all of your family members. Then all of your friends. Then all of your coworkers. Continue to write down anybody and everybody you can think of. Even if you don’t know the persons name you can write them down. For example you could write “The young women who works the cash register at Starbucks”.

Just write down absolutely everyone you can think of. Also, never prejudge anyone. It’s not your job to try and figure out who will get in and who wont. Everyone is a possibility, and should be added to your list. I also want you to make sure that this prospect list is always written and never typed. The results have proved to be much more powerful when written.

There are two additional way to acquire prospects to include in your prospect list. The art of prospecting, in its simplest definition, is the act of approaching people you don’t know and telling them about your business. This is not something that everyone is going to be able to do successfully, and will not be covered in this post. The other way acquire prospects is to advertise. This is a powerful technique that requires plenty of explanation, and unfortunately will not be covered here either.

For now I want you to focus on presenting the business to people you know. You need to become comfortable, confident and fluid in the presentation of your business. The best way to develop this is by starting with the people you know.

So once you have completed your prospect list (which is never really complete and should be constantly changing), contact the first person on your list, and use the work flow discussed in the part 2, as your guide. If you practice these steps and strategies exactly how they have been presented to you, a monthly residual income and a business to be proud of will be right around the corner. Do this, and your life will change! I’ll see you on part 3.

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Tags: advertise, downline, dream book, money, prospect list, prospecting, Residual Income, success

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The First Day of the Rest of Your Life

January 14th, 2010

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I hope you’re ready for what is about to happen to you. This could end up being the first day of the rest of your life. Only time will tell if you actually seized this moment, or let it go in one ear and out the other.

Today you are going to be given the opportunity to do more than just read my blog post. You will be given the chance to get actively involved in an exercise that will drastically enhance your productivity and improve your chances for success. You must understand one thing before reading any further. It will only work if you actually do it. So do exactly what I tell you and you will not be disappointed.

The first thing I want you to do, is sit down with a piece of white paper, and a pen with blue ink. I want you to spend about 10-15 minutes writing down anything and everything you would be, do or have, if money was not an object. I want you to list only goals you feel you could accomplish in the next 12 months. I want you to continue this exercise every day for a week. Repeating this process will ensure that you get several chances to update and refine your list.

Next I want you to take a new sheet of paper, and list your goals in order of smallest to largest. Then I want you to go out and get pictures of all of these goals. Make sure the pictures include you in the frame and are representations of you actually achieving those goals. You will then place those pictures in a small binder of paper that can be added and removed at will. This is your dream book. A dream book is means by which to display written and visual representation of your dreams in a place that is easily accessible to you.

Once your dream book is constructed, with your list of goals and dreams, you will start with the first dream on your list. This should be the smallest dream from your complete list. Before I go on I want to give you a quote from Brian Tracy who said, “The major difference between people who consider themselves successful and those who consider themselves failures, is that successful people take the first step.”

I cannot emphasize enough, how important it is for you to take the first step. Without that, failure is guaranteed. You must begin immediately! Not next year, or next month, or next week, or tomorrow but NOW! Engage in some activity at this very moment that will bring you one step closer to achievement of this goal. That is the first step.

Next you must engage in one activity every single day that will aid in the achievement of this goal. If you stick to this simple, yet rarely used formula for success, you will soon be relishing in your achievement of the first goal on your list. The feeling of accomplishment you receive from this will drastically magnify your power to achieve the progressively larger goals on your list.

Do this and you will soon be on your way to a level of productivity, self mastery and personal happiness you never thought possible. Make this the first day of the rest of your life. A new life filled with no self imposed limitations and endless possibilities. Now go get started!

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Tags: Brian Tracy, dream book, money, personal happiness, success

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Bad Economy = Big Opportunity!

January 12th, 2010

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I felt I had to write a blog post about this sooner rather than later. The current state of our economy has the vast majority of people frozen with fear at the possibility of loosing money. The sad part about this situation is, that almost nobody is excited about MAKING money. Isn’t that ridiculous!

We are in the midst of one of the greatest money making opportunities of all time, and we are too scared to do anything accept sit home with what we have left, and think about the worst case scenario.

At this point, if you have not at least begun to become a student of The Law of Attraction, then you really need to start. This way of thinking, practiced by 97% of the population, is exactly what keeps people from ever achieving financial independence. The ideal way of thinking at this point in time, and in the current situation, is one of complete focus on how you can take advantage of a struggling economy by making life enhancing financial choices. Simply put, you need to be thinking about exactly what you WANT, not what you DON’T WANT.

If you look back in history at previous recessions, you will see that the most money in history was made as a result of these recessions. If your strategy is to freeze up with fear, and cover your head until its all over, you will undoubtedly find a financial disaster awaiting you when you reemerge. It’s time to make strong moves, have depth of vision, and show strength of character by attacking this economic challenge with the confidence that all successful people possess.

Keep in mind that these opportunities don’t come around often and some serious thought should be given to how you can make it work out best for you. Think about what you can offer people in this current economic climate. What are you passionate about? What are people going to need when the economy starts to recover? What product or service can you provide? Do any of these things also bring you great joy? Find something you enjoy doing, find a way to help people by doing that activityj and then find a way to get paid for it. Sound to simplistic? Give it a try!

The only chance you have at big time monetary success, is by following your own bliss. The money alone will never be enough to sustain the consistent effort required to become successful. Let your own enjoyment guide you through life and business. This will allow you to enjoy the ride on the path to financial independence.

Now is the time. Don’t let fear run your life. Educate yourself on the current opportunities that interest you, and in a few years you could be sitting on more money than you ever thought possible. I know you can do this. Go for it!

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Tags: economy, financial independence, making money, money, success, successful

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The Fine Line Between Success and Failure

December 9th, 2009

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This post has been written to give you a very clear, basic and applicable understanding of what it takes to be a success as well as what it takes to be a failure. Some people would consider themselves successful. Most of them would be incorrect. Some people would consider themselves to be failures. Many of those people would also be incorrect. Then their are those who fall somewhere in the middle. This is where most people end up wither they know it or not. I think that’s good news. Let me explain.

History has shown that what makes a person stand out, achieve great things, create monumental success in their lives, are separated not by intelligence, but by the way they think. The resulting knowledge we have acquired about ALL of these amazing individuals gives us the understanding that perseverance is far more important than intelligence when determining success or failure. So what enhances your ability to persevere? Your mind of course!

Now that we have that established, lets talk a bit about how to develop your mind for success. First I will touch briefly on what you must not do if you want to achieve success, then I will finish, in greater detail, on what all of the most successful people in the world have done, and what you must do in order to be successful.

When Napoleon hill concluded his 20 year research assignment for Andrew Carnegie on the common denominators for success based on 500 of the worlds most successful individuals, he had learned some valuable lessons. He had found that the most common denominator to all people who considered themselves or where observed to be failures, was that they operated out of fear. They lived their life with fear in the driver’s seat and because of that never achieved anything worthwhile, least of all peace of mind. Napoleon stated that fear was something that absolutely had to be avoided, and to his amazement, was not found in any of the most wealthy and successful people he had interviewed and observed.

Mr. Hill also found,as a result of his research, that all of the most successful people in the world seemed to have experienced several apparent disasters, failures or setbacks in their rise to the top. What makes this so interesting, is how these individuals perceived those events mentally, as well as how they used those events to their advantage. You see, that is the real defining characteristic between successes and failures.

Various, seemingly catastrophic challenges or situations will arise in your life. This is an inevitability. It is how you first perceive, and then deal with these challenges that will determine your life’s happiness and fulfillment. You must remember that you never loose until you quite. This should tell you that no matter what happens to you in life or in business, that you must consistently use The Law of Attraction to persevere at all costs. Keeping the the attainment of this burning desire in your mind will ensure that you will always come out on top, achieve your dreams, and intentionally create the life you deserve. The best way to train you mind for success is to read books, listen to audio CD’s and attend functions. Only through consistency of these activities can mastery be achieved.

In summery. Don’t operate your life out of fear. It will destroy all chances for success. Always look at what seem like monumental failures, as challenges that can be overcome and opportunities waiting to be taken advantage of. Do this and there is no doubt in my mind that your life will become magical. I wish you peace and love. Have a great day.

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Tags: Dale Carnegie, Napoleon Hill, success, successful, The Law of Attraction

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Master the Fundamentals

November 16th, 2009

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The last of the five key concepts that must be understood in order to create fabulous health and financial independence in your life, is the mastery of key concepts 1 through 4. You must master the fundamentals! You must engage in consistent repetitive review of concepts 1 through 4. This must be done until mastery is achieved. Only then, will the real magic happen in your life.

You must know who to listen to. You must constantly be assessing your teachability index. You must have a deep understanding of the training balance scale. Lastly, you must understand the 4 steps and how to achieve unconscious competence. Master the fundamentals!

All of your success from this point on in life, will depend upon your ability to master the previous four key concepts. This is not opinion. This is not theory. These are the principles that have been used for thousands of years by the privileged elite to attract huge amounts of money, and achieve personal well being. I myself, am still in mastery of these concepts. However, I am lucky enough to have advisers who have already achieved mastery of these concepts, and have been generous enough to share them with me. I will continue to relay this information to you, with the hopes that you will use it to create happiness in your life. Learn these concepts, and your life will change. Thank you for reading and I will talk to you soon.

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Tags: financial independence, health, money, success

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Book Recommendations for Making Money and Improving your Health

November 16th, 2009

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Understanding The 4 Steps of Learning

November 15th, 2009

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In this blog I will discuss number 4 of the five key success principles you must understand, and apply, in order to become a master at manifesting your desires. There are 4 different states of mind you can be in when learning, and applying, new information. They include:

Unconscious Incompetence
Conscious Incompetence
Conscious Competence
Unconscious Competence

At this point, you may be wondering how you determine where you are in the 4 steps. Let me be clear that we all start in Unconscious Incompetence, when learning new information about an unfamiliar subject. When in Unconscious Incompetence, you don’t know that you don’t know, because you really haven’t been taught anything. So at this point you have no idea what it is you don’t know. Now in order to progress to the next stage of learning, you must be taught something. Once you gather some information you begin to realize how little, if anything, you knew at all.

Congratulations! Without even realizing it, you have just reached Conscious Incompetence. Now you know that you don’t know. This is the next progression of your mental awareness, and has brought you one step closer to eventual mastery of the information. This mental state also drastically increases your Teachability Index score that I spoke about in an earlier blog. It does this by increasing your willingness to learn.

At this point your starting to feel pretty good about yourself. You know that you don’t know, and are really exited to move on to the next phase, which is Conscious Competence. Your arrival at this higher degree of consciousness was due to the fact that you now know exactly what you need to do, but still have to make conscious effort when applying it. This step is where most people max out, and some people never get to. You can be a fairly successful person if you spend your day in a state of Conscious Competence. However, if you want to be the true master of your world and be able to manifest your dreams, you must first achieve Unconscious Competence. This is where the money is.

Achieving a mental state of Unconscious Competence, while applying the correct principles, is what separates the most successful people in the world from the rest of the general public. 99.9999% of people never get to this level, and because of that, most people will never turn their dreams into reality. The only way to get to this level is through consistent application at the Conscious Competence level. If this is done long enough, Unconscious competence can be achieved. At this level, you do things automatically and without conscious thought. That’s where the power is. Let me give you an example.

When you were a child, there came a point where it was time you learned how to tie your shoe. Now up until this point, you had no idea that this was something you would need to know one day. You were at Unconscious Incompetence. Then your mother or father started the teaching process by tying your shoes for you and sending you off to school. Growing older by the day, you soon developed the desire for independence and began attempting to tie your own shoes. Many times you failed at this task, giving you the realization that you didn’t know how. You were in Conscious Incompetence. You of course, being very teachable, soon asked for help and were shown exactly how to tie your shoes from a professional with years of experience (your mother, father, or older sibling). Sure enough, after a few tries, you did it. You had then moved into the realm of Conscious Competence. Shortly there after and to this day forward you have enjoyed Unconscious Competence, as you now tie your shoes with perfection daily and without thought. But how did you get there? You got there by consistently watching some one else doing it correctly, and also by practicing it on a daily basis the right way. Observing and performing an activity on a daily basis is the fastest way to achieve Unconscious Competence.

Hopefully this example has given you a clearer example of this 4 step process of learning and application.

I want to address a very important detail of this process before I let you begin your quest for mastery. You must understand that this process can be applied to both productive and destructive utilization of new information. This is a process of developing productive unconscious habits. Development of the right habits can bring success and happiness into your life at mind blowing speeds. However, make sure you only strive for the development of productive, life enhancing habits, because the use of this process with incorrect principles or bad information, will surely bring about an equally powerful negative affect.

I realize this blog got a bit wordy at times. However I assure you , the more you read it, the better your understanding will be. You can do this!

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How Teachable Are You?

November 13th, 2009

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What I would like to focus on today, is the second of five essential concepts that must be mastered if you want to achieve high levels of success in your life. This concept is called the Teachability Index. The Teachability Index will help you determine how teachable you are.

Now before I go into detail, I would just like to make one point very clear. Not some, but all of the most successful people in history scored very highly on the Teachability Index. Wither they were conscious of it or not, they were all very teachable.

Now, how do you define how teachable you are? Before this can be truly analyzed, you need to understand that there are two parts to the Teachability Index. These two parts are, in actuality, requirements of your level of teachability. The first requirement is “What is your willingness to learn the information?”. The second requirement is “What is your willingness to accept change?”. This may take some self examination on your part. I will tell you that the second one is usually far more difficult for people than the first. It must also be understood that in order to have a high Teachability Index, you must score high in both categories. For example, the Index is on a scale of 0 to 100. A person with 100% teachability has to have scored a 10 in both requirements, because 10 times 10 is 100. This also means that if your score a 10 in one requirement, but only scored a 3 in the other, your score will end up being a 30 out of a possible 100. It doesn’t take superior intelligence to know that you must score very high in both requirements to be considered highly teachable.
This is where your mind must be if you ever hope to achieve complete financial independence as well as vibrant and dynamic health. This is the essential component for learning that I really want you to to understand. The more teachable you are the easier it will be for you to grasp some of the Law of Attraction information coming your way soon. If you can become 100% teachable, and have already determined who to listen to (previous blog), your life will change so fast that it will blow your mind. So how teachable are you?

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